Rhyme. For a Change.

Shame on Me


I think I remember the first time I felt shame inside –

When something happened that made me want to run and hide.


I was in a Grade 5 gym class – my first attempt to climb rope,

When the teacher mockingly told me I didn’t have a hope.


If instead he would have helped me to build some confidence and strength –

I know I would have gone to any length…


Instead he made me feel terrible about myself,

And I shoved any interest in being an athlete to the back of the shelf!


And, even though I excelled at everything else at school,

This “failure” made me believe that I couldn’t be “cool.”


Sadly, we often take for granted whatever we can do well –

It’s the areas where we fear we’re “less than” that we tend to dwell!


At school I had a good friend who wasn’t academically great,

And the teachers made her feel like she just didn’t rate.


But she was so pretty, and nice, and as popular as could be –

That she had the best life ever, seemed so clear to me!


Years later she told me that she had wished for my life

Because her school days were filled with constant shame and strife!


So, we both felt socially like we were not good enough –

But our shame was the result of some very different stuff.


We know a lot now about how a childhood scar

Often continues to have a strong impact on who we are.


Brené Brown explains how “shame gremlins” can have a lifelong effect,

On who we become, and how well we connect.


But, though it’s true they play a part in how we learn to relate,

Our old patterns do not have to be in control of sealing our fate!


She talks about “whole-hearted living,” and I’ve come to believe

That this is a way of life I really want to achieve.


I have the intention, and I’m finding my way,

And I am so grateful for what I’m learning every day!


We can all transform our lives once we decide

To take responsibility for being in charge of this ride!


It’s called being “at cause” in NLP –

Not at the effect of others – continually!


And, really, when all is said and done –

Being the driver of your own bus is way more fun!

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Rhyme. For a Change.

Best-Case Scenario


I realized something quite important today,

And I wanted to write about it right away.


You know I am a big proponent of living in NOW –

And I do a lot of practicing to better learn how.


But, since it often seems impossible not to think ahead…

I’d rather imagine a positive outcome – not something I dread!


I understand that chemically in my brain,

This will cause me to feel pleasure NOW – instead of pain.


Be a realist people tell me – but what does that mean?

They seem to want me to prepare myself for a negative scene.


Is an unwanted outcome always more true?

And what does being prepared for the worst really do for you?


Your brain will respond by releasing hormones of distress,

As if you were actually in the middle of a mess!


And, guess what – a mess is what actually ensues,

If this is the option you continually choose!


Since we can’t really know the future for sure –

Why is it considered less intelligent to believe in a cure?


Neuroscience has actually shown that this is a lie!

It’s smarter to think positively – and (simply) this is why…


With negative thinking stress hormones start to satiate,

And our brain function is lower in that particular state!


So being able to focus on problems, and make them expand –

Does NOT mean you are the smartest in the land!


It turns out imagining the best-case scenario,

Seems to be a much better way to go!


The best part is that you get to be happier today,

With more energy to find solutions…come what may…


So here’s my story – I just wrote a kids’ book,

And I sent it out so the literary world can take a look.


I have absolutely no idea what anyone will say,

But I’m feeling very hopeful and excited anyway!


As soon as I pressed “SEND” what I began to see –

Were little kids reading my book on their parents’ knee.


I imagine seeing my books in my favorite bookstore,

And I see myself writing so many more!


Of course, I don’t know what the story will end up to be –

But am sure enjoying the way this version feels to me!


Isn’t it better than waiting thinking no one will reply?

Or that it’s really hard to break in, so why even try?


If you call me a dreamer, that’s really OK,

I’m so grateful for that ability every single day!

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Rhyme. For a Change.

Inside Out



The Konmari Method is all the rage right now –

If you want to clean up your space. it will teach you how.


Getting rid of clutter and keeping things neat,

Is often quite a challenging feat!


But we all know life is better every day,

Living in an environment with good Feng Shui.


My job is often to help you clean up too –

The patterns of thought that aren’t working for you!


Judgment is the first negative pattern we often address –

We all feel much better when we do it much less!


We can’t stop judgment completely, but to keep it low –

The practice is to notice when we judge, and let it go…


It’s a simple process, but not so easy to do,

Because the person you judge the most is YOU!


Our negative self-talk is so familiar, you see –

That we accept it as the truth far too easily!



Once you start this practice, I must confess –

Seeing how much you judge may cause you some stress.


But I promise you it gets easier amazingly fast,

And the benefits of less judging will last and last!


I ask clients to start to look at which beliefs they know –

They will never really miss if they let them go.


Which thoughts come up over and over that make you feel sad?

I’m sure cleaning some of those out wouldn’t be bad!


Are you always worrying about what others think and say?

Wouldn’t it be great to send those worries on their merry way?


We have so many habits of thought stuck on instant replay,

And we get pretty used to thinking that way.


Even if we really want to transform and enjoy our lives more –

Shifting our unconscious perspectives can be quite a chore!


So be kind to yourself and supportive as you begin,

We all have “stuff” to get rid of – it’s not a sin.


This is not the kind of thing you can achieve overnight,

And there is not a wrong way, or one that is right!


How about making the important decision today,

That you will start sorting through your mind for stuff to give away?


Start slowly and be aware of how good it starts to feel,

To take charge of this process and begin to heal!

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